Are Your Goals Undermining Your Success?

“Dream big.”  “Go for the gold.” “Set a BHAG – Big Hairy Audacious Goal.”  These are the types of phrases you may have heard from motivational speakers and professional coaches.  Let’s face it, the goal setting process is valuable.  It helps you get clear about what you want and reminds you of where you are going.  But there’s a missing piece of the goal-setting puzzle, in my opinion.  And this one thing can mean the difference between achieving the goals you’ve set for yourself and those same goals becoming an impossible dream.

Take my client Frankie.  She’s a wonderful lady.  A dreamer – and a do-er.  By the time Frankie found her way to me she was in a place of financial struggle.  She was doing everything right, or so she thought.  I could tell in our first conversation that Frankie had fallen prey to the encouragement of the motivational masses on the topic of goal setting.  She had heeded the battle cry of setting her own “BHAG’s” and had grown very, very fond of them.

During one of our earliest conversations Frankie shared with me her favorite BHAG; the financial goal she had set for her business.  She intended to make $500,000 in 2010.  Like many people who have dipped their toe in the Law of Attraction pond by watching the mega-hit “The Secret,” Frankie had an elementary understanding of how the Universal Laws really work.

This became clear to me as we discussed the structure of her business.  You see, Frankie’s business model was not set up to pull in that kind of money.  She didn’t have the products and services created, or the marketing avenues.  But she did have her “BHAG” and her strong belief that she was open to the Universe bringing her this income.

Well, that’s all lovely.  I believe in the loving Universe bringing us things too – but I also know that I have to be a “vibrational match” in order for those good things to come into my experience.

I shared some resources with Frankie to help her better understand the Universal Laws that work in conjunction with the Law of Attraction.  And I also shared with her my theory of “Money Resonance.”  You see, when it comes to things in your business such as price or goal-setting, one must take great care to make sure that they are “resonant” with those numbers.  In other words, if you are making $12,000 a year and you set a BHAG of $700,000, it’s more than likely that you are not vibrationally resonating – or anywhere near resonating with that number.  You’re resonating with what you are experiencing.

Look, I know all of this talk about vibrational resonance might sound way out there.  It’s really not that complicated, but I get that they are not words you hear every day.  For those of you who have been drawn to the Law of Attraction idea, you owe it to yourself to get up to speed with these other concepts.  Failure to learn about this stuff is the reason most people struggle to make Law of Attraction work for them.

So here’s the thing guys – if you set a goal that you aren’t resonant with?  It’s going to create more dissonance within your energy.  Every time you look at that goal, you’re going to “energetically zap” yourself.  That might happen in the form of a conscious or subconscious thought like “Who am I kidding – I can’t achieve that.”  Or “I don’t really deserve to make 500,000 a year!”

Maybe you’ve been very attached to your goals like my client, Frankie.  When I first introduced the idea of being resonant with her goals, she was very resistant to it.  She had been long listening to those well-meaning motivational speakers out there.  My idea was a completely new one, like it might be for you.  But after some consideration and some honest dialogue, she was able to see for herself that her goals were doing more damage than good.

So how do you know if you’re not resonant with your goals?  Easy!  Just look at your progress.  How close are you to achieving them?  Are you on track?  If so, you’re resonant.  If not, well, you’re not.

But that doesn’t mean you can’t be.  Use this idea to have some honest dialogue with yourself about why you’re not resonant.  What are you believing about yourself that is impacting your ability to achieve those goals you hold dear?  Is there anything you need to energetically release in order to move forward?

And while you’re working on releasing that which is getting in your way, consider writing new goals that don’t undermine your success.

It can be a complex process, but it’s certainly achievable.  If you feel that you would benefit from a guide on this journey, I can help you.  Consider taking advantage of one of my Intensive coaching programs designed to get you moving forward – FAST!  A “Goals and Money Resonance” Strategy Session is an integral part of this amazing program.  Check it out here…http://www.mollyluffy.com/30days/